Money Wise: The Budget

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original date the post was published is shown below.  

5/11/14

People don't usually like the word "budget". Usually it has a negative connotation of some sort, kind of like "diet". But having a budget doesn't have to be a negative thing. In fact, when you really figure one out, its sort of freeing.

We started using an online budget tool called mint.com shortly after we were married and continue to use it today. You create an account that you then can link  all other financial accounts to so you can see everything in one place. We see our checking and savings accounts, Roth IRAs, HSA, and student loan accounts. You can also create a budget each month so you can view it regularly and easily keep track of where your money is going. Mint will list all of your transactions and then you can assign them to different categories so that they fall within your budget.  It has been a great tool for us. 

That all being said, it has taken time to really learn how to create a proper budget. For a long time I had budget categories, but I mostly just looked at where I had spent money after it had already been spent, rather than telling our money how it would be spent beforehand. That is the key. You have to start each budget before the month has started, determine how much your income will be, and then assign every dollar to a category. It can be hard at first, sometimes you have expenses you don't expect, but after a few months you start to get a pretty good idea of how much you will spend and what you will spend it on. 

Some people may feel that planning how much you can spend on each category (ie: clothing, eating out, groceries, etc.) will be limiting, but as we have started to efficiently budget I find that I feel a lot less guilty. For example, when we didn't plan ahead how much to set for clothing that month I would buy things but then always feel guilty for spending the money, even if it was something I needed. Now I know exactly how much we have agreed to spend so as long as I stay within that amount I don't feel guilty at all. 

Creating an efficient budget (together! If you're married) is really the first step to taking control of your money. Once you start that, your debt-free future starts to become a little clearer. 

Money Wise: More on the Credit Cards

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original date the post was published is shown below.  

4/24/14

I'm not an expert on credit cards, but I have learned a few things in the past couple of years that I think are really important. First of all, how often do we hear the words "credit score"? Like every single day, right? Society seems to think that having a credit score is one of the single most important things an adult can have, or maybe even that it makes you an adult. Lets blow away the smoke shall we?

First of all, nobody needs a credit score. Ever.

You often see or hear commercials that say things like "low credit score? no credit score? no problem!" Its important to clarify here that a LOW credit score and NO credit score are NOT the same thing. Car dealers and pay day loan sharks and such want you to think they are, but they are not.

A credit score keeps track of your ability to borrow money. Thats it. So if you have a high credit score it means you are good at borrowing money. If you have a low credit score it means you bad at borrowing money (make late payments, default on loans, etc). If you have NO credit score, it means you don't borrow money. I have already established that borrowing money is not the way to go, so not having a credit score is actually a good thing! Really! It means that you pay for things with money you actually have.

But you are all thinking, wait! What if I want to buy a car?! What if I want to buy a house?! I need a credit score. No. You don't. Unless, you want to borrow money in order to buy that car or house (although houses are a little different and I will address that below). See, that's the problem most everyone in this country is facing. We are told we need to borrow money so that we can get a credit score so that we can borrow more money so we can buy things we can't afford. (No, we can't afford them. Remember, if we could afford them, we wouldn't need to borrow money in the first place).

So, what is the solution? Well, if you never get a credit card and never take out a loan you will never have a credit score. Which means you wont be able to buy a car you can't afford, so you will either have to save up until you can pay cash for that really nice dream car, or you will have to buy an old beater until you can get something better. As for a house, well it would still be best to save up and pay cash for a house too. But, if that isn't realistic (as it probably isn't for most people) you do have another option. Thanks to Dave Ramsey (of course) I now know how to get a mortgage without a credit score. It's called manual underwriting. It's what people used to do before credit scores became the norm. Yes, you still have to have a good down payment, a job, and proof that you have been in good standing with your bills (such as rent, electric, water, etc), but hopefully that would be the case anyway. My understanding is that not all lenders know how to do this anymore, so you may have to look around a bit, but now you don't have to go take out some loan just so you can get a loan...

Isn't it freeing knowing that you don't need a credit score? It sure is for me. 

Things that Made my Life Easier in 2014: A French Shopping List and a Capsule Wardrobe

I think overall, 2014 was a pretty good year. Phil graduated from school, got a good job, we moved into an apartment that we love, and Luke grew and grew. We feel really grateful and blessed to be in a good situation, even if everything isn't perfect (darn student loan debt).

Lately, I have been trying to find things to make our life more simple and enjoyable. I want to look back on these years and remember good times that we had, not just a busy or stressed-out life. So, I spent some time reflecting on things that I did in 2014 that made my life easier. I found that it had really been just simple, small changes that made a big difference. Here a few of them:

1. Creating a Capsule Wardrobe
2. Menu Planning
3. Using a Monthly Budget
4. Having a To-do List

Capsule Wardrobe:  First, of all, I had never heard this term until about September of this year, but apparently its "trending".  I have always loved clothes and fashion, but I have never had the money to buy everything I wanted so I have often felt frustrated with my closet, always thinking that if I could just buy a few more things I would be happier with my wardrobe (which of course I never was). In the spring of 2014, I stumbled upon the blog The Private Life of a Girl talking about the "French Wardrobe" which, according to her, means that the French don't have mountains and mountains of clothes, but rather a few basic pieces that they can wear often, and when they shop they only buy a few new pieces each season.  I really liked the idea of being more intentional about the things I buy rather than chasing a bunch of trends that I see on fashion bloggers. So, over the past year I have made a list of 5 things that I wanted for each new season and focused only on buying those pieces. I tried to make sure the pieces on my list were items that would mix well with pieces I already owned, as well as would be pieces that weren't too trendy so that I could use them for a long time, even as trends change.

This way of shopping has changed a lot for me. First, it has helped me avoid impulse buys.  I keep my shopping list on my phone, so whenever I was out browsing I could pull it up and remind myself of the pieces I really needed and wanted rather than getting distracted by some pretty thing that probably wouldn't have suited me in the long run anyway. Next, it made me appreciate the items I already had a lot more, and stop coveting what other people had. When you choose to buy less, and become more thoughtful about what you do buy, it changes your perspective. Instead of thinking, "if only I had more money to..." you choose to think (and therefore begin to feel), "I am choosing to limit my purchases and be content with what I have."

After making my seasonal lists over the course of the year, I discovered another great blog called un-fancy that focuses on keeping a "capsule wardrobe" for each season. Basically, a capsule wardrobe means that you choose to only have a certain number of items in your wardrobe for a certain number of months and you don't buy new clothes during that time. In the un-fancy blog, she has 37 items (shoes included!) that she wears for 3 months (spring, summer, fall, winter). I had already been trying to simplify my wardrobe so I really liked this approach and decided to give it a try.

I sorted through all of my things and got rid of anything that was old or that I didn't wear very much (I actually do this pretty frequently, so it wasn't a big ordeal). Then, I boxed up all the items that I didn't want to have in my fall wardrobe (mostly short sleeve shirts, shorts, capris and a few other items that I decided I didn't need currently hanging in my closet). I didn't quite get down to 37 pieces, but I was pretty close, and I wore only those items through October, November and December. Turns out, I didn't miss my other clothes at all and I enjoyed how having less items gave me the opportunity to be more creative. I found new ways to wear things that I had never tried before and I found that rather than feeling like I didn't have enough, I just really enjoyed my clothes and getting dressed each day.

At the beginning of January I pulled my boxes out, put away a few things from my Fall capsule and added some new things. Now I will only wear those things until the end of March. I will still continue to make my French shopping list, and buy the 5 new things I need for each season/capsule. This whole progression over the year has really helped me to be more content, which is something I not only want for myself, but want to teach our kids too. It seems silly that clothes and the way I buy and wear them would be a source of happiness, but they have been, and I can see how that change in perspective has influence other areas of my life as well. I'm looking forward to a new year of a simple, easy wardrobe.

Check back for more posts on things that made my life easier in 2014. 

Money Wise: The Credit Card

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original publishing date is shown below.  

4/21/14

Like so many, Phil and I have had our share of credit cards. I got my first card when I was 18 and getting ready to go to college. It was a Capital One card with something like a $300 credit limit. My mom, who like the majority of us believed the myth that we all need a credit card to build our credit, allowed me to apply for it. Don't get me wrong, my mom did nothing wrong here, she didn't know any better and neither did I. We have all been ingrained with the idea that we need a credit score to do anything; it's only recently that my mom and I both have learned that that is not true. My mom did have the wisdom, however, to teach me to use my credit card carefully. I used it only a couple times a month to buy gas and groceries and then always paid it off in full.

Later, when Phil and I got married, we opened a joint checking and savings account with Wells Fargo, and each got a credit card through them. Looking back now, I don't even remember asking for a credit card, it seems like it was just part of the package and we signed away. I don't blame Wells Fargo either, their bankers are just doing their job. And most of them probably believe you need a credit score too. 

We never considered not using our cards, at least not at first. We continued to use them as I always had, buying the things we needed anyway and then paying them off in full every month. We never carried a balance, and we had the "benefit" of getting 1% cash back on all our purchases. That is not a lot, but, we told ourselves, if we were buying it anyway why not make a little money while doing it?

You are probably wondering why, if we always paid off our cards and received cash back, is it a big deal? Why close them? Well, that was our feeling too, for a long time. Actually, until about a month ago. We have known for a while that once Phil graduated we would get super intense and pay off all our debt as fast as possible, and the closer it gets to that time the more excited I am to get going on it (we can't start yet because we don't have an income and need to save everything we can for moving expenses once he starts a new job). We really want to be debt free, and even though we have never carried a  balance on our cards, we came to a realization that to keep using them was kind of counter to our goals. When you use a credit card, you are borrowing money. It doesn't matter if you pay it off right away, you are still borrowing it. And we are done borrowing money. No more. Ever. I don't want to worry about the "what ifs" any more. When you pay for things with money that you actually have, you never have to worry. You never have to worry about paying it back, or interest rates, or missing a bill, or not having enough, because YOU HAVE ENOUGH!

So, we cut up our cards (two Wells Fargo cards and a Target card, I had closed my Capital One card previously) and even though we still have our student loans to pay off, I feel even closer to our goal. 

Money Wise: Becoming Free

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original publishing date is shown below.  

4/9/14

If you couldn't tell already, I love Dave Ramsey. I listen to his podcast nearly everyday, and I always feel more motivated to pay off our debt and be smarter with money. Almost every day on the show he features a "Debt Free Scream" which is when someone, usually a couple, comes on the show and tells Dave how and why they paid off well of their debt and then they countdown and scream "we're debt free!!!!" It's awesome and so inspiring.

One day a couple came on the show to do their scream and Dave started asking them what made them decide to do it. The wife started talking about how she had bought a new car, a really nice new car, and how even though they were paying off their other debt, she was hanging on to that car. She said that she realized after a while that she didn't like what that car said about her. It wasn't really the car itself, it was that she was keeping it because it made her feel good, it was a status symbol and she realized she bought it so that she could look good to others, not because she really needed it. She had made that car more important that anything else in her life. She realized that she didn't like how that idea reflected on her and she decided to sell the car and help her family get out of debt once and for all.

Of course we need things, and its even ok to just have some things that we like and want. But the point that really stuck with me was that it can be so easy to put our things before God. Suddenly a car or a house or some nice clothes or whatever become more important than Him. I think sometimes Christians feel like being rich is bad because then if means you are prideful. But, I don't think being rich is bad at all, its just how you feel about and what you do with those riches that makes the difference.

"Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." (Matthew 6:19-21)

Part of the reason getting out of debt is so important to me is because I don't want to be a slave to money. Some might argue that getting an education is an acceptable reason to go into debt, but even if it is, debt is debt and I just don't want it in my life anymore. When you have debt it can prevent you from doing all the things you would like to to do, including lots of good things like donating to charities, developing skills and talents, and improving your family situation and lifestyle. Money is a tool, you just have to learn how to use it properly.

Money Wise: Living Like No One Else

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original publishing date is shown below.  

4/1/14

My parents never have had a lot of money, so growing up I learned that I couldn't always have everything I wanted. In fact, I never had everything I wanted. But I always had everything I needed. My mom stayed home to raise my brothers and I and did a great job stretching every penny. She was crafty and made our Halloween costumes, birthday decorations, and yummy meals. My dad worked hard to provide for us each day at work, and then came home and worked some more to make our house and yard a home. I have never looked back and wished I had more toys or more clothes or that we travelled to more places. We were a happy family with what we had, even if it wasn't as much as the Joneses.

Now that I have a little family of my own, I have grown to appreciate my upbringing even more. I realize how valuable it was for me to live in a family who worked hard to make do with what we had, and never placed to much emphasis on money (or the fact that we didn't have much). I'm not saying my parents were perfect with money. Now that I'm older and can talk about money with them, I have learned that they didn't always make the best financial choices either. They racked up some credit cards and spent more on things here and there than they should have. But, they still taught my brothers and I to be careful and wise with the money that we earned.

Now, with over $100,000 in debt, my dream is to just have a home for my family like I had growing up. I don't need to be a millionaire. The future is unknown to us and there is no way to know now how much money we have in the future. That is not really important to me, and never has been. I just want enough to have the things we need. It can be hard sometimes to differentiate between want and need. I love to shop. I love to get new clothes and things for our house. I love to sew and buy patterns and fabric. I like to travel and see new places. But those things all cost money, and truthfully, as much as I want those things, I don't need them.

Some may wonder what the big deal is. Why not just live like everyone else? "Make your monthly payments on your loans, get a credit card and charge a trip to Disney on it, finance new furniture, and don't worry about buying new clothes, you deserve them!" Isn't that what we all hear all the time? Well the fact is, I just don't want to spend my life making payments. I don't want to worry about falling behind on a credit card and getting called by debt collectors. I want to own the things that I have in my house. And I don't want to feel guilty every time I put on that shirt that I really didn't have the money for. I don't want to live like everyone else. Its just not worth it. Our goal is to pay off our loans in 5 years, that may sound crazy, but I know that we can do it. Like Dave Ramsey always says, we will have to "live like no one else, so that later we can live like no one else." And we will.

Money Wise: More on the Debt

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original publishing date is shown below.  

3/26/14

Even though we knew it wasn't good to have debt, we didn't really feel it was all bad either. It just seemed like a necessary evil. However, we are both naturally frugal and so didn't spend a lot of money on other things and always tried to live within our means in other areas of our life.

Phil felt that he needed to go to graduate school to progress his career, and I supported him. He was working at a local company as a buyer while I finished my degree. Once I graduated he planned to start a masters program. He decided that an MBA would be best and so started preparing to take the GMAT. This is where some of our sense of frugality was misplaced. We didn't want to fork out the money to pay for Phil to take a real GMAT prep class (it was around $500 if I am remembering right) so we paid something like $90 for him to take an online prep class which ended up being pretty useless. At the time we just thought we were saving money (ironic isn't it?), but we realize now that spending the money on a real class probably would have paid off in the end.

Phil is smart and has always done well in school, but isn't a great test taker (on standardized tests, that is). He took the GMAT several times and never got a great score, which really limited his options on where he could go to grad school. However, he had international experience and spoke Chinese which opened the door to Thunderbird School of Global Management, a private college in Arizona. Thunderbird was ranked #1 in International Business, and all we read about it convinced us that it would offer Phil some good opportunities to get a better job. The only downfall? Tuition and fees would total around $100,000.

We should have seen that number and turned and ran the other way. Was an MBA really worth that much? Was it really the only way to get a better job? No. Of course not. But for some reason we didn't feel the weight of having that kind of debt hanging over our heads. Its not that we didn't talk about it. We did. But ultimately we decided it was ok. We agreed we would pay it off as quickly as we could and it would be ok. We convinced ourselves that it was our only option.

Looking back now, we did have other options. Phil could have continued to work for one more year and taken a real GMAT prep course to try and better his score and increase his options. Had we stayed in Salt Lake I also would have had some better job opportunities (one that I really wanted but turned down because we were moving to AZ) and could have worked full-time and saved all of that money. Even if Phil hadn't been able to improve his GMAT score, he probably could have done an executive MBA program at the University of Utah at night and continued to work full-time. We could have cash-flowed his entire program, paid off the loans we already had, and been debt free.

Hindsight is 20/20. We made our choices and chose to come to Thunderbird and take on the debt. That is done. There is no point in dwelling on the past. But, I hope that others might learn from our mistakes. The truth is, it was easier to just get loans than to do a little work. We wanted instant gratification. Phil was tired of his job. I was ready for a new adventure. We didn't want to have to wait until he improved his score, or we had saved more money. We didn't want to stay in our same tiny apartment, or be stuck in a job that wasn't very fun.

But that is the problem with society today. We all want things right NOW. And we can get them...if we borrow the money. But, like others, we have learned the hard way that sometimes (maybe all the time) its worth it to wait. Its worth it to work. Its worth it to not have debt.

Money Wise: The Debt

Note: I originally wrote this and other posts about our finances on a personal blog but have decided to share them here. The original publishing date is shown below.  

3/24/14

We were married in December 2010 and Phil already had just over $10,000 in student loan debt. We made our monthly payments, but didn't make much of a dent in the debt. Someone gave us The Total Money Makeover as a wedding gift and we both started reading it a few months into our marriage. We liked its teachings and agreed with the principles. We started using a website called Mint to manage our various checking and savings accounts and to create a monthly budget. We still use Mint on a regular basis. At that time we also increased our loan payments by en extra $100 a month, but we both felt too scared to really attack the debt and pay it off. We wanted to save our money for future expenses.

The truth is, Phil never should have taken out those loans in the first place. Had he planned a little better, he could have worked more and paid for school in full with his own money. We were able to pay for my schooling without taking out any more loans. But at the time he really didn't see or feel anything wrong about it. Everyone was getting loans, he did too. 

We are all in control of our decisions, but society really does have an influence on us. College has become so much more expensive that it used to be, even compared to just 20 or 30 years ago. I remember my dad talking about how inexpensive school was (relatively speaking) when he was in college. He would work hard all summer to save up and then pay for a full year of school with his earnings. Student loans didn't even really exist, and certainly weren't the norm. Now, the government guarantees student loans, and they aren't bankrupt-able (meaning even if you file for bankruptcy, you still have to pay your student loans, unlike every other kind of debt) so it makes sense for schools to increase the cost of tuition and encourage students to get loans because then they get more money.

Phil and I are wiser now, we see through this scheme. But it has taken us a while to get here, and unfortunately $100,000 more in student loan debt. Despite our reading and budget making, we still made the decision to come to a very expensive graduate school and take on more debt. Over the past two years we have really come to realize how burdening debt can be and are ready to be free from its weight on our lives. We still have a long way to go. This is just the beginning of our journey. 

How to: Sell on eBay

My husband and I have always lived pretty simply. Partly because we have never had much money, and partly because we just like a minimal lifestyle. We try not to gather too much clutter in our house and often are going through closets and drawers finding things that we don't need or don't use to give away.

Until recently, I always just donated things we didn't want to a thrift store. Then, when we were getting ready to move back to Utah we participated in a family garage sale with some friends. We didn't make a lot of money, but it was definitely more fun to make some money on our old things than no money at all. After the garage sale we still had lots of things we wanted to get rid of, but now with a taste of profit we decided we would try selling on eBay before just giving them away.

I won't pretend we have made a fortune doing this, but we have made money, and since it was on items that we had used up and would have given away anyway, it has been that much more rewarding. If you want to start selling on eBay, here are some thoughts to help you get started:

1. People will buy anything. You never know what someone might want, so don't throw something out just because you wouldn't buy it online. Since listing is free on eBay (although they do take a small percentage of the sell price) there is no harm in trying. The only exceptions to this would be if its an item you can't or don't want to ship, or an item that is very worn or damaged.
2. Charge for shipping.  When I first started selling things (mostly clothes) I had the idea that people would be more willing to buy it if I didn't charge shipping. But then shipping costs always ended up being more than I expected and I didn't come out making much of a profit. Once I started charging for shipping I found that people still bought my items. If someone wants the item enough, they won't mind paying a little to ship it.
3. Use descriptive titles. I have found that the more details I can put into the item title the more quickly it sells. So instead of listing your item as "black dress pants" say something like "Express Design Studio Black Dress Pants Women's Size 6 Long". It may seem excessive, but the more information a buyer can see right away, the more likely they are to click on your ad and buy your item.
4. Take adequate photos. I say adequate because it doesn't seem to matter that much. eBay is not Etsy (which seems to always have beautiful photos) and buyers seem less concerned with the quality of photos than the information the photos provide. If you are selling a book, for example, buyers will want to see the dust jacket, the front and back covers, the spine, the title page, the publishing date, relevant illustrations, and any wear and tear the book may have. The buyer will not care whether or not the book is displayed on a velvet cushion as long as there are enough photos to show them its overall condition.
5. Price right. eBay has auction and flat rate selling options. I almost always use auction because I like the possibility of getting multiple bids and making more money. However, the system will make suggestions to help you list your item and it often prompts you to start at a very low price if you use auction style. Then if you only get one bid you just sold that expensive sweater for one dollar. Despite what the system recommends, don't start your price any lower than you feel the item is worth to you (even if you are sure you are going to get multiple bids) that way you have no regrets when the item sells.
6. Be smart. eBay is a pretty safe marketplace, but there are still scammers. Use a paypal account to safely accept payment and report any strange emails, such as ones asking you to sell outside of the eBay interface, or asking you to ship to suspicious countries for extra payment. If you aren't sure about something contact customer service.

Selling on eBay is great way to make a little extra money, especially on items that you would have willingly given away! Give it a try and you might be surprised. 

P.S. I was not compensated in any way for this post, the opinions and experiences are completely my own! 

Moneymaker

Society tells us that we need a lot of things. We need a big house. We need two, or three, cars. We need new clothes every season. We need expensive furniture and home decor. We need boats and RVs and other "toys". If we listen to society and believe that we need all these things, it is very likely that we will also believe that we need two incomes in order to purchase all these things.

Many working mothers that I know would like to stay home, but feel that they have to work. They see their bills and cost of groceries and think they have no other choice. Sometimes this really might be the case, but often some lifestyle changes will allow for only one income.

My husband took on over $100,000 in student loans to earn a Masters Degree and then a job that earns him around $65,000 a year. You do the math. Some days we just look at each other in frustration, wondering how we are ever going to pay off this debt.

No one would be surprised, knowing our financial situation, if I decided to also get a full-time job to help pay off the debt. But, ever since we got married we have agreed that once we started having children I would stay home with them. It is something I have always wanted and looked forward to doing.

The fact is, even if I did get a job by the time we paid for gas, work attire, convenience foods (because I wouldn't be home to make our meals), and day care, we wouldn't actually be making much more money.  Sometimes we just see the paycheck and think how great it would be to have more, but we forget about the expenses that allow us to earn that paycheck in the first place. I have made it my job then, to not only care for our baby and the house, but to find as many ways as possible to save us money.

I make from scratch nearly all of our meals. My husband takes lunch to work everyday. I shop at thrift and consignment stores and make, repair, or alter many of my own clothes. We rarely buy anything without having researched and found the best deal first. We both drive 15 year old cars and pretty much never go out to eat or to anything that costs money.

I have nothing against working outside of the home if that is what one chooses to do. But my point is that you have a choice. You don't need all the things the world might tell you you need, and if you want to be a homemaker, you can make it work on one income.

Is it hard? Yes. Is it worth it? Absolutely.